Fishing For Love In All The Wrong Places

I was single and totally disillusioned with my life. I was tired of eating at home alone every night in my empty apartment. I did not have a ton of time on my hands to prowl bars. I did not have the finances to be out every night either, so I thought I should try a free online dating site. I had a friend who suggested that I give Plenty-Of-Fish a try. The same seemed weird to me, but I trusted my friend so I created a profile. I mean, there was nothing to lose but my time, because the site is pretty much free. To my way of thinking, it seems that plenty of fish is good at catching the fishermen, but not so good at helping the fishermen catch fish. Needless to say, I was not impressed with the matches that I got on that site. Maybe I should have been using worms for bait rather than me.

My first experience connecting with a man from POF started out okay. He said he was from France, and seemed genuine enough. I was excited about dating a French lover. On our first date, the first thing that he wanted to do was to go to his house for drinks. I was hungry and suggested that we go to dinner first. He very calmly sized me up and then said, “I am not interested in feeding your, I am only interested in having sex with you.” Well my response to that was, “Unless you want to be wearing your balls as a pair of earrings, take your filthy hands off me”.

My God, I could go on for many days telling you about the sleazy guys I met on plenty of fish. Pigs who tell you anything to get you in bed. From just plain liars to married men, to just mere perverts. The psychos that continue to call even after you tell them to go fly a kite, and threaten to call the police. There is even a Gaga video that shows POF being used in prison. From my experiences, I will bet money that prison inmates have full access to this site.

I have never seen a place before with such a concentration of liars and cheats. In my several months with POF I met over twenty guys in person. Most of them never got past the first date. A couple got to the second date but no farther. And it turns out that the only one with more potential than that confessed to be an illegal alien on the fifth date. I liked the guy, but with an agenda like that I could never be sure why he was interested in me. One way that I found to cull out a lot of them was to insist on going on video chat with them. I kept setting up throw away accounts on Hotmail just for that purpose. Many would not, and several who did should not have because they looked unkept, and nothing like their pictures. POF does have one good thing to say about it. If you are a bit short on looks, you will still get a lot of attention.

The end of the end with POF for me came after a date with a CPA that I met through them. He lived in an upscale condo in Manhattan. The date started out great, he took me too a great restaurant, he bought expensive wine, everything was top of the line. I had never went back to anyone's apartment before on a first date, but I made a rare exception in his case. Everything seemed to be on the up and up with him. He was attentive in his apartment as well. We listened to music while we talked and kissed and snuggled. It was so great!  Just at the point where I was beginning to think that I had finally found a keeper on POF, the axe fell. The creep got around to telling me that he wanted me to prance around his apartment naked wearing nothing but a horse tail butt plug. Well I picked up my purse and slugged him with it. Needless to say, I told him I have never been so disgusted in all my life and galloped out of the door.

It was then I realized that POF was not for me and deleted my profile. I was discouraged, and decided to never join another dating site.I was in the dumps about all of this and I promised myself that I would never do internet dating again. My friend felt bad about what had happened to me, so she looked around a bit on her own. She came back to me with a link that she discovered. Said that it had a bunch of recommended dating sites on it. She encouraged my to check it out to see if I could find a better site. “Boy was she right on the money this time!” It was incredible, there were so many links to so many dating sites I was in awe. I checked out a few of the sites and signed up on three. The nice thing was that all of these were free for women, but the men had to pay. That must help filter out a lot of the cretins, because it has been better. Anyway, it was a good move because now I am meeting men who are looking for longer term commitments rather than just a roll in the sack. I’m really enjoying my social life again, and I couldn't be happier.

Most dating sites are not bad, although the totally free ones tend to attract more riffraff I am told. Even the best dating sites will have a few bad apples in them. You have to be on your guard anywhere. With internet dating you have to practice safe hex before you practice safe sex. Some sites will take that little extra step in an effort to keep their site safe. Bad apples will always find away to slip in to any site though, so its up to you to be aware of this and to not give out to much private information.

So visit the link below. It has some great advice for online dating as well as lists of recommended dating sites. I think you will find what your looking for just like me. Good luck.

Online Dating Recommendations

Swingers Sites

Why would couples want to become swingers, why would they want to have sex with someone else especially if they're supposed to be in love with each other? Well that's because these couples do not associate having a sexual relationship with someone other then their spouse as love; its strictly sex. Swingers are so comfortable in their relationship with their partners that they show their love by not holding their partner back from new sexual experiences. This is basically what swinging is all about, having sexual liaisons rather than romantic encounters with other couples or even individuals. The core relationship for swingers is what gives their lives stability. It is almost a friends with benefits situation, but the core relationship is based on romance. If anything their relationship with other people falls into the friends with benefits category.

Swinging is a personal choice for many couples who see making love with anybody other than their wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend or significant other as a bed sport. Some people however get into swinging for the wrong reasons. It could be that their partner is into swinging and they want make them happy by getting into it themselves.  Possibly their relationship is slowly eroding and the excitement has all but vanished; so they get into swinging hoping to bring back what they once had. Generally, those who start swinging for the wrong reasons will end up splitting in the long run. Successful swinging requires a loving, and not possessive relationship between both partners in the relationship.

To emphasize the point, swinging is a lifestyle for couples who have very loving and close relationships. Mutual understanding and a strong foundation are vital factors in being a swinger. It is also very important to have a partner that understands why you want to enter this lifestyle. Swingers require open and strong communications with each other to be successful. When both partners totally understand where each is coming from, they will find outthat swinging can be a totally enjoyable and enriching experience. Swinging can appeal to yoursexualand recreational needs, including fantasies and desires that you can explore either together or apart. Swinging is very much about sharing sexual adventures with each other which in turn will strengthen your sexual and emotional growth.

Just remember that it takes two to tango well.
Swinging is, and continues to be, increasingly popular for married and dating couples as well as all races. Swinging beganin the early 50s in the rich suburbs of the United States. At that time swinging was not a common thing and the only way back then to meet other swingers would either be through news paper ads or through other swingers.

All of this has changed drastically through the years and especially since the launch of the Internet. At this time, besides local swinger clubs, you are now able to go online and find dozens of swingers sites to meet new friends. These sites offer you the chance to communicate with and meet other swingers like yourselves who are interested in getting together for a fun time. So if you happen to be a swinger or want to get into swinging, here is the site for you:

Swingers

Are These Losers Or Is It Just Me

My name is Brianna and this is my dating story. Several years ago, I was desperately horny. That is not my usual state, but was the result of having just been through a divorce. Now divorces are not known to make you horny in themselves. My issue is that I had been celibate during most of the contest, and now that it was over I had gotten my long lost libido back in spades.  My problem was that I had been out of the dating scene for a long time, was in a different decade, and really had no idea where to go or what to do to find a date. My ever helpful sister Darla told me that I should try plentyoffish. Well I told her that eating fish was supposed to be good for a lot of things, but how would that help me get it on with a man. I did not need an aphrodisiac, I needed a dick (mainly because the imitation ones were just not cutting it for me anymore)! She informed me that it was a dating site that I should try and maybe I could meet a nice guy to spend some time with. Let me tell you I was not to excited about the idea of posting my face on the internet. My sister asked me what the difference between putting my face on a dating site or putting it on facebook. So I thought about it some more and decided to give plentyoffish a try. BIG MISTAKE!

I have to agree that plentyoffish is a good name for the site. I met some barracudas and a few slimy eels, and even someone that I thought of as pond scum. Plenty of patience is what they should call it, because I ran out of it before I ever found anyone decent.

The first guy I chatted with told me he loves to play with his kids and spend time walking on the beach. When I checked his profile, it turns out that he does not have any kids at all, he was just leading me on, so I moved on.

The next guy claimed to be 35 when I was chatting with him. There was no picture on his profile, but he seemed articulate enough. When I saw him in person, he was at least 15 years older than that. And I am being generous! This guy was all duded out like an urban cowboy. Something like how John Travolta was dressed in that movie, but this turkey was older, fatter and uglier. He wanted to take me to a bar.  I was polite with him for a while, but as he drank he started to get a bit surly. I did not need any of that crap, so I pretended to go to the powder room and ducked out on him. Good thing I never gave him my address or phone number. In any event, when I got home the first thing I did was to log into good old plentyoffuddyduddies and block him!

The next loser seemed nice enough online, but when I met him in person, suddenly his voice became an unintelligible drawl. Halfway between New York Ebonics and Arkansas drawl. He kept talking about us doing the deed over and over. I said that if he touched me I would yell at the top of my voice and call the cops! One more time I had to go on the lam! So there I was, blocking him on plentyofmorons at the first opportunity.

I informed my sister Darla that this dating site thing just wasn’t working and that all I was meeting were losers. She insisted I give it another go so I did, I started chatting with a guy who seemed to be very sensible, smart and funny so I agreed to go out with him.

He took me to a nice club and as we sat down at the table a few of my friends who also  happened to be there came over to say hello. I asked them if they wanted to sit with us, and they agreed. After all, this was just a first date and the object was to get acquainted and see how well we interacted. To me that also meant how well he got along with my friends, so I saw no harm. My date took offence at this. He was very upset and asked me to ask them to leave. I disagreed since I had just said that they could sit with us. He made it known to me that he did not want my friends at the table with us. I disagreed and he started sulking of all things. I could not believe the way he was behaving like a child. In any event, this proved to me that he was not very suave, and it would very likely get in the way at some point. Later, my friends and I were kibitzing around cracking jokes. He honestly seemed not to be following them. He certainly was not laughing much, and when he did it looked forced. In any event, he proved to me that he was not the person that he pretended to be online. Funny how it is that you can pick up on things in person that evade you when chatting online. Needless to say, it was my last date with the bad humor guy!

After that, the online acquaintances just started to blur together. There was an accountant in there, a sales clerk, a farmer of all things, a financial consultant, and a bunch of other guys who just did not cut it for me.  I was no spring chicken anymore, but I do keep in shape, and I am brutally honest. I expect the same from anybody that I hook up with. I was continually disappointed for a few more months. I just felt like I was wasting my time. I was beginning to think that a better name for plentyoffish would be plentyofnothing. Just like that old Gershwin song. It got that I would start to hum that Gershwin tune every time I logged in to the site.

As it turned out, I was by myself most of those several months. That dating site was for the birds. I told my sister that I was tired of online dating sites. They were just not working for me. I did not want to log into plentyoftimewasted any more.

She told me there was another site that some of her friends had used and they seemed to meet some OK guy's. She asked me if I wanted the link. Well I had nothing to lose but more time, and I had scads of that since I did not have any dates. To cut to the chase, I agreed and she got me the link.

So when I went to the site, I was surprised to find that it was not a dating site at all. It was actually a dating review site. It had done a lot of work to select and categorize what it called the top dating sites on the internet. It was really easy to use. I selected a couple of sites and joined. One I had to pay for, and the other I did not have to pay. Within hours I was getting results. I did find that there were a bunch of idiots on them as well, but not quite as many as I was used to tap dancing around. I am now dating a couple of guys, one from each site. They are both nice guys, they are not cheap, they do not do weird things, and I feel great being seen in public with them. What a difference. Finally, my life is going someplace good again!

I tried to figure out why I was successful on these other sites and not on plentyoffish. I think that the issue is that plentyoffish is free to everybody. Because of that, it attracts a disproportionate amount of losers. I mean, would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone unsuccessful, or someone who is too cheap to pay for something? Unfortunately, free sites tend to attract exactly the types of people who either cannot afford to pay for better (because they are unsuccessful) or else they are too cheap to pay at all. When I took a harder look at the listed sites, I realized that every one of them were pay for use sites. In a way, it gives them an advantage because it tends to filter out both cheap people and unsuccessful people. I also got a pleasant surprise on several of them when it turned out that women did not have to pay at all. Just the men. As an average female, I have been just as successful on both the paying and the non-paying sites.

So if you want some of the right kind of action, I highly recommend that you try the link below.

Top100datingpersonals.com

How Would You Like To Ware Your Balls As A Pair Of Ear Rings

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Dating Swingers

Do you ever wonder why couples are into the swinging lifestyle? It is often because they are free spirits who, although totally in love with each other, just do not believe that exclusiveness adds anything to a relationship. In fact most swingers feel that monogamous relationships are detrimental to long term satisfaction because it can breed dissatisfaction. Swingers are people who are not at all jealous of their partner having or giving sexual pleasure to someone outside their relationship. This is basically what swinging is all about, having sexual liaisons rather than romantic encounters with other couples or even individuals. Their home romantic relationship is the rock on which their emotional and financial lives depend, and they would never risk that by letting a sexual fling become more than just sex.

Swinging is a personal choice for many married couples who see making love with anybody other than their significant other as a physically stimulating pastime. Some people however get into swinging for the wrong reasons. Maybe their partner is into swinging and they want make them happy by getting into it themselves.  Perhaps their relationship is slowly eroding and the excitement has all but vanished; so they get into swinging hoping to bring back what they once had. Generally, those who start swinging for the wrong reasons will end up splitting in the long run. It can only work if both partners are completely open minded about the situation and can handle their partner engaging in sexual activity with someone else without flying into a jealous rage.

Just to hammer the point home, swingers must have a very close and loving relationship to succeed with a swinging lifestyle. Mutual understanding and a strong foundation are vital factors in being a swinger. It is imperative that both partners fully understand why each other wants to be a swinger. Swingers require open and strong communications with each other to be successful. When both partners totally understand where each is coming from, they will realize that swinging can be a very adventurous way of life and that it makes you feel alive. Swinging can appeal to your sexual and recreational needs, including fantasies and desires that you can explore together rather than apart. Swinging is very much about sharing the experience with each other which in turn will strengthen your sexual and emotional growth.

Just remember that it takes two to tango well.
Swinging has become and continues to be, increasingly popular for married and dating couples as well as all social classes. Swinging came about in the early 50s in the rich suburbs of the United States. At that time swinging was not common practice and back then meeting would either be through news paper ads or via other swingers.

Social views have changed drastically through the years and this has accelerated even more during the 90's at a dizzying rate. At this time, not only are there swingers clubs in most major cities, you are now able to find Internet swinger sites to meet new friends. These sites offer you the chance to communicate with and meet other people like yourselves who are interested in getting together for a fun time. So if you happen to be a swinger or think you are emotionally ready to get into a swinging lifestyle, here is the site for you:

Swinging Life Style

Does Size Matter?

The importance of size is a question that men have been asking for as long as there have been cucumbers and baby corn growing in the garden. Does penis size really matter?  For some women, size – especially penis girth – is very important for them in a satisfying sexual partner.  Luckily, scientists have found a simple way for women to see if a man they are interested in is packing some serious trouser meat without staring at their crotch.

A sample study in Korea has recently discovered that the ratio of a man's index finger to his ring finger is an accurate measure of his meat treat. The larger the length of the ring finger when compared to the index finger, the more that the man's underwear seams are straining. It all has to do with the amount of testosterone or estrogen that the male child is exposed to during pregnancy - the more testosterone the longer the ring finger, and proportionately, the penis. 

Apparently, the long ring finger syndrome also indicates higher intelligence. Of course if that were true, then Ron Jeremy (the famous porn star known for his prodigious penis) would be in Mensa. This likely means that the next fad in plastic surgery will be for guys to shorten their index fingers in a bid for increased intelligence.

So now a simple handshake will let a woman discreetly assess whether a man has enough of a package to keep her happy Easy!

Despite society’s focus on what a man is packing, there have been some recent men’s movements that try to reduce the fascination with penis size. These groups contend that it is not the man who should worry about their genitals, but women. After all, they contend, a man can do nothing about the size of his penis, but a woman CAN do something about the tightness of her vagina.

Women are encouraged to exercise their kegel muscles. Women who have just had a baby know all about the benefits of Kegels for re-strengthening their lady parts for things like preventing incontinence, but these men’s groups contend that all women could benefit from having a vice-like vagina.


Kegel Exercises for a Tighter Vagina!


On a side note, there is much that a man can gain from kegel exercises and tantra sex so that they can have more intense orgasms, more frequent orgasms, and multiple orgasms. You gotta love that guys!


Kegel Exercises for stronger male orgasms!


Future generations may enjoy genetic manipulation so that no man will ever have to suffer with a three inch tool again!



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