Dating Seniors

Being single again after a lifetime of marriage and being over fifty can be pretty daunting. Almost half of women over the age of sixty live alone compared to only one out of six men. Dating has certainly changed a lot in the past 30 years or so. Today it is not unusual to see a grandmother buying condoms along with her Metamucil or denture cleaner. Older men are often so confused that they don't know if they should open a door, pull a chair out, or pay for the whole dinner and movie.

Most of us would like to believe that we can come back from the ashes of a previous relationship a few times, but after a while, with little luck, hope will no longer seem so spring eternal anymore. Approaching a relationship the second or third time around can be pretty daunting, especially if you have been out of the game for a few decades because of a successful relationship.  Finding yourself splitting in your 50's can be a very shattering experience. Becoming a widow or widower is even more so. People tend to be a bit more set in their ways and comfortable with their life styles when they are in their 50's and beyond. This makes it much more difficult to find someone compatible than when you are in your more flexible 20's. If you are looking to find someone who just meshes with you and your lifestyle, the odds are severely against you. If you intend to find a new life partner, then you must be prepared to do a few changes. These do not have to be radical, but you do need to do some things differently. Personally, I always hated golf, but I took it up so that I would have a better chance of finding someone – and hey, I grew to like it, so it was not a waste.

First dates with the over 50 crowd are always an interesting experience. You never know what to expect. You will get sophisticated to boorish, and every flavor in between. Most will not go to a second date simply because the chemistry is not right. You will often have to sit through a stressful evening of stories about their current job or past profession, their deceased wife,  ex girl friends, how good they are in bed, and how their piles are inflamed and they cannot sit for another minute. Of course several of them will also bring up the topic of Cialis or Viagra, just trying to lay a foundation for later on.

And its no picnic for the men.  I have heard many  disaster stories from friends, who are at the point of no return when it comes to dating. All of these are symptoms of a fundamental incompatibility with each other from the get-go.

Why is it so hard for seniors to find someone compatible?  They say life gets easier as you get older. Too bad they can't say the same for senior dating. What is the source of the problem? We are not amateurs in the dating game! It is not as if we do not know what we want. So why is it so tough? Is it because we are too inflexible? Most likely the answer is no! Older people want the same things that younger men and women are seeking to find in a relationship. They all want:

1) Someone To Listen
2) Someone To Care
3)Someone Interesting
4)Someone Compassionate
5)Someone Loving
6)Someone Understanding
7)Someone Compatible
8)Someone With Similar Interests
9)Someone With similar Values
10)Someone To Share Our Lives With
11)Someone Who Respects Me
12)Someone I Can Respect

Is that asking too much?

After discussing my problems with a few of my good friends. They suggested that I try one of the dozens of senior dating sites available online. I shied away from the topic and the idea of a dating site, but after some encouraging words from my pals, and after finding myself seriously considering proposing to my vibrator, I decided to give it a go. I turned on my computer and searched for senior dating sites. There were so many that I was taken aback.

It was pretty overwhelming initially. I started having flashbacks of when I was a kid trying to choose a candy bar at the store. I explained my dilemma to my friends and one of them suggested a place to start. This site is a dating site rating service. They have tested thousands of dating sites, and have a list of the sites that they recommend. All of them are categorized to make it easier to select. My friend said that she had signed up to a couple of the recommended sites just to make sure that she would find someone fast.

She said that is how she met her boyfriend. And all this time I thought she met this terrific guy at work, boy was I taken aback. So I gave them a try, it was a cake walk I just created a profile, told them what I was looking for in a man, and they did the rest. Pretty soon I find myself matched to several interesting guys, and they can all actually carry on an intelligent conversation. I'm in dating heaven! For the first time in in what seems like centuries I am actually going out with fabulous men and it's so exciting, life really does get better with age.

If you are a mature man or women and you are looking for a new love in your life with, then take the first step. Follow the link below and sign up to one of the recommended sites. You'll be glad you did.

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